Hearty congratulations to Geeta Ganp, Anamika Chaudhuri, Jaishree Venkat,Vanshika Khanna and Srividya Chandrasekar for sharing their views with us onthe topic – ‘Sometimes children don’t want to let their parents down by notperstrikeing well. They take more pressure on themselves to excel in every fieldas they don’t want to disappoint their parents.’ Their views have been chosento get featured on our blog. Do read and share your views.
I believe that parent’s guidance plays a major role, never share yourexpectations with your child, only encourage and motivate him to do whateverbest he can, I have seen children who have attained the highest %age in schooltill ninth and then fails in tenth std, my heart goes out to the child who hasseen so much peer pressure, I believe a balance has to be drawn, admire for hisefforts however minute they may be , tell him u are happy and would be happywith his achievements….a hug a day keeps depression away…!!
It’s absolutely true that many children who are very sensitive don’t want tolet their parents down & take extra pressure, extra burden to fare wellrather be the best in every field… They tax themselves by doing things beyondtheir limit…… It’s practically not possible for a child to excel in everyfield… An average child, for example, can do well only in the field he/she isreally good in… Now if such a child tries to satisfy his/her parents by hittinghis/her head hard into everything, perhaps won’t be up to the mark… This willlead him/her to depression & lastly he/she will lose his/her mentalbalance… So motive should never be to satisfy your parents by doing thingsbeyond your limit but to do that in which you are the best… Then only you canlead a healthy life…!!
In any field u cannot think of victory every time. To be a constant winner uhave to taste the defeat too which will help u to achieve the true level ofyour interest. And I always feel that emotions of parents should not be shownto kids as… it affects them mentally and morally too. As every child has itsown limits and they can excel till that limit and if limit is exceeded theywon’t be able to take the setback of defeat and it may lead to some drasticsituation too. I personally have seen a boy who used to excel in academics andextracurricular activity till 10th and by the time he reached 11th, I don’tknow what happened he lost his mental balance and was treated for 2 years tocome to normalcy… And I am sure it all happened because of the pressures hetook till his 10th std to excel in every field he is entering into… and to makehis parents dream come true.. Never ever pressure the child and let them enjoytheir childhood as a child…. as after they come out of school there’s a fulllife for them to take the pressures which automatically teaches them what iswhat… so let them enjoy the life till they are young and let them achievesomething of their own in any field and not because the parents wanted or theother child of same age is doing it..!!
No it’s not true it’s we the parent who push them to excel in every field.We plant a seed of competition as well as jealousy in their heart. A childdoesn’t understand what a competition is but we d parent force them to win byany chance. If we will not do so why d child be stressed to win. Instead parentshould explain d true meaning of Competition to our child we should tell themit’s not a matter of winning or losing but to participate with true spirit.
I agree with the igenius’s comment. I can speak about my own experience…myson who is 7 yrs old, has been a star perstrikeer so far winning almost all thecompetition within school and outside ..And hates to lose…while reasoning theimportance of accepting defeat, he started crying saying that he wanted make mefeel proud…the same happened with my daughter…she is class one…initially shewas this naughty kid with more interest playing. But of late she wants to comefirst in all the exams…if her doesn’t she becomes rather quite…which by the wayis not her nature…she also feels that if she does well…i would be so happy!!!!Iwas initially shocked but have realized that by telling stories ofachievers…knowingly or unknowingly i have been pushing them to pressurethemselves to excel…this puts me in a fix…what are we supposed to tell them…!!