Ever wondered why days that celebrate relationships, be it with you father,mother, teacher or friend is important. It’s because it helps us to celebrateit, remember the person and perhaps give thanks for the cheer, love and warmththey have brought into our lives. With Friendship day around the corner (didyou know it is celebrated on the first Sunday of August every year!), this daylike the others deserves its special place and in my opinion a very high one!After all, a friend/ friendship is really a gift you give yourself.
So what really is friendship? While it perhaps is indefinable to perfection,these traits do describe the true meaning – friendship is a unique blend ofaffection, loyalty, love, respect, trust and loads of fun. Friendship is afeeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person.
Friendships for each one of us start at a very early age, and its importancetherefore in a child’s life and his/her wholesome development is extraordinary.Friendship for a child exists in every relationship he/she has – be with themother, father, sibling, pet or another child. Each of these naturallycontributes to the kind of individual a child blossoms into.
Friendship between Parent and ChildThis strikes the basis of any upbringing and goes a long way in deciding theemotional quotient of an individual. By understanding your child’s needs,respecting their likes and dislikes and supporting them in their decisions, weas parents can really help them appreciate other relationships in their life.
Friendship between SiblingsFriendship/love between siblings is again a unique relationship. It gives achild a special person/partner to confide in, get through tough times togetherand also learn to compromise and sacrifice, as may be the case with an elderbrother and sister among siblings.
Friendship with another childThis one perhaps is the most important and differs from those with familymembers. Friendships with other children are very important in order to helpkids grow emotionally and socially. Building good friendships/relationshipsboosts a child’s self esteem and they find comfort in them when things gettough. Moving cities, attending a new school, losing a pet or going through afamily crisis never seems so bad when they have a friend to talk to and someonethey feel they can depend on for moral support.
Here’s why these bonds have a lifelong influence on a child and his/herdevelopment.
- Friendships allow a child to try out different ways to relate to a rangeof relationships. – give and take, share and compromise.
- These relationships help them learn appropriate social behavior, how tobecome a leader, how to follow, fairness and how to win and lose gracefully.They learn that different friends and different social situations call fordifferent social behavior and also that not everyone sees things from the samepoint of view.
- Friendships help children to develop a healthy psyche as they lend tobuilding better self esteem. Experts suggest that a sense of well being has adirect relation to children facing fewer social problems while young and alsoas they mature.
As parents, we should be mindful, encouraging and empathetic to theimportance of friends and friendship in our child’s life, and play and activerole in helping him/her make and keep friends. By doing so, we would only beensuring that our little one is blessed with a lifetime of happiness andsuccess.
On the occasion of friendship day, would you like to go down memory lane andshare with us your wonderful, enlightening, happy or even a sad story offriendship?