Difficulties a working mother faces while bringing up her child/childrenand also the positive sides of it.
It is the dilemma facing every working mother – how to devote enough time totheir children, while juggling career demands with household chores. Somepeople still think that a “good mother” is one who gives up work to stay homewith her children. However, no scientific evidence says children are harmedwhen their mothers work. A child’s development is influenced more by theemotional health of the family, how the family feels about the mother’sworking, and the quality of childcare. A child who is emotionally welladjusted, well loved, and well cared for will thrive regardless of whether themother works outside the home. A mother who successfully manages both anoutside job and parenthood provides a role model for her child. In mostfamilies with working mothers, each person plays a more active role in thehousehold. The children tend to look after one another and help in other ways.The father is more likely to help with household chores and child rearing aswell as bread winning. These positive outcomes are most likely when the workingmother feels valued and supported by family, friends and coworkers.
All parents wish for the best possible start to their child’s life.Unfortunately, many think quality childcare can be expensive and often hard tofind. Many parents end up spending a large share of their paychecks on childcare and still are not happy with the quality of the care their childrenreceive. Finding quality childcare is very important and it all lies in thevalues and lessons that you share and impart to your children. Standards forchildcare settings may vary depending on the type of childcare. Parents can,however, improve their children/child’s care programs by becoming activelyinvolved. Taking an active role in your child’s care not only helps ensure achild’s well being, but also may reduce any guilt or misgivings you may feelabout working. Having quality childcare and a good relationship with thecaregiver also can ease some of the worry. Parents need to be especiallyattentive when they are with their children. The more involved parents are inall aspects of their children/child’s life—even when they are not physicallywith their children—the closer they will feel and the more effective they willbe as parents.
Now, a new study has disclosed that in India, those who work outside thehome spend on average two to three hours a day looking after their families –including meal times. Apart from this they also try sharing time with theirchildren. But psychologists said it was more important how the time caring forchildren was used, and that less than 81 minutes could be enough if it includedfun activities, which were sufficiently bonding. The report examined how muchtime parents spent involved in childcare as a “primary activity” – coveringthings like meals, dressing, playing, and reading bedtime stories to children,and excluding time when the parent’s main focus was on another task. Of allparents, fathers with jobs spend the least time on such care – just 43 minutesa day.
Family relationships may suffer if both parents want to work but only onehas a job. Problems also can occur if there is competition or resentmentbecause one parent is earning more money than the other. Such conflicts canstrain the marriage and may make the children feel threatened and insecure.With both parents working, the need for mutual support and communication iseven more important. So focus on your work and family equally and push out ego.
Well parents these are my views and I hope to get some valuable discussionsgoing.Themost important of all is to push aside the ego factor between the spouses of abetter, more earning or related aspects because along with this comes the splitand the child/children suffers.
I’ve tried to touch the basic factors of quality time that a working motheractually needs to spend with her child/children.
And of course the advantage of staying in a joint family too counts very highlyfor a working mother as the child’s security, which is the ultimate priority.