You are perhaps thinking – why this fuss about wholesome development? Did wenot grow up just fine without our parents really having a plan in place whichensured that we developed the emotional, social, intellectual and spiritualaspects of our personality? Will all this also not fall in place for my child?
The answer is maybe! As the world becomes flat, more complex, choices aboundand distractions multiply, it has become necessary to focus on the ‘whole’development of a child. It is needed so that we as parents are mindful ofhelping mould our child into an effective individual in touch withhimself/herself, surroundings and society. Would we really want to leave thisto chance?
Walk the Talk!
Just as a painting transstrikes from an empty canvas into a depiction of theartist’s imagination, skill, intellect and emotion, so does a child’s worldtranscend from being a dependent offspring into an independent reflection ofthe effort and joy the parents have put into nurturing him/her.
The role of a parent is perhaps the most critical in shaping a child’spersonality; in fact it really begins with us….
Do you recall the first time you caught your toddler folding clothes andtrying to arrange them in a cupboard, or trying to operate the DVD player,whilst cleaning each DVD disc with great care, just like you do? It is a vividmemory for all parents alike – to see their child emulate their actions! Infact a child is really like a sponge observing and absorbing, taking in allinstrikeation we give them directly and indirectly. So would it not be, that achild who is well – handled, nurtured, and loved, would develop trust, a respectfor relationships and the ability to express his/her feelings coupled withcreative independence?
Here are a few simple things that can help start with being more mindful ofour actions as a parent -
Build imagination: Allow your child to broaden his skillsthrough active play of all sorts, including fantasy.
Physically active: Enough cannot be stressed about this aspect. Space to bephysically active in that is safe and hygienic is a must.
Encourage humor: Allow your child to crack you up with hisantics! A child’s sense of humor is essentially an intellectual and emotionalskill which leads to better health, increased optimism, higher self esteem andgreater emotional intelligence.
Allow mistakes: If you believe in cracking the whip atevery mistake made by your child, you are encouraging an innate fear of takinga risk. This certainly in no way means that you let him jump from the balconyof your house but let him explore and experiment within safe limits, toencourage a healthy risk taking attitude.
At the end of the day, a child’s world should resonate with the sound oflaughter, happiness and joy.