Every parent today is in constant endeavor to provide the very best fortheir child. And if we see yesterday’s Facebook poll results, even spendingtime with our children is becoming a difficult task (refer to the above chart).Right from the clothes they wear to the toys they play with; to the school thatthey go to… it’s all about trying to do the right thing.
Does it however cross your mind as to what the ‘right’ way is? There reallyare no definite answers. Take for example the decision of whether you shouldhave your child compete in a talent contest at a national level, or on atelevision show. Does it add more pressure on the child to compete from atender age? Or does it provide him/her with a world of new opportunities? Onecan never be sure, and experts’ view on the subject seems to differ too.
Simply put, while the dos and dont’s may be many, and the chances being thatone can never be sure about having made the right choices/decision, there arebasic principles that can assist us as parents to follow a course to help ourchild develop as a *whole* individual. Here is a quick overview -
Be there for your child: In a world that is competitive,busy and complex, we always seem to be running out of time. It is all the moreimportant therefore to take out a few hours in a day to connect and communicatewith your child. Reading a book to your child, sharing his/her interests orplaying with him/her can be de-stressing for your child and can help forge aspecial bond.
What you do matters: It’s all about being the example thatyou want to set. For instance, if you want your child to avoid eating junkfood, it really has to being with you setting the right example of healthy foodhabits. Your child will grow in an environment provided by you. Tell yourselfevery day, how I behave and respond to my child will have an impact on him/her.
Mutual respect: Respect your child’s opinions, listen andtreat them as individuals.
Rules are good: Breaking a glass accidentally can be dismissed as being naughtybut breaking it on purpose is an act of misbehavior, which should not bedismissed. Set certain ground rules which must be based on wisdom and notpower.
Avoid harsh discipline: Discipline is good but physicalpunishment under the garb of disciplining is not. A child who is spanked ismore prone to being aggressive because when you hit a child you make himbelieve that being physical can turn things his/her way.
Although there is no guarantee that these guidelines will make us a perfectas a parent, these tips can act broad guidelines towards developing a whole,happy, well adjusted child. What are your experiences?